Why is Your Marriage Not Working?

Yes,I have come your way today to solve that real problem you've been battling for long within your home.

Why are you having problem with your marriage?
What are the reason why your marriage is not working?
Have you observe any reason why your marriage is not working?

Well,I am congratulating you today because you are going to solve that long suffering problem that is disturbing peace and harmony in your marriage.

Marriage itself is a dynamic interplay of forces. It is one “hell of an affair” – pardon the expression - to sustain, fix and nurture. It’s a two way street, a bilateral treaty that requires the consent and signatures of both parties, not just one.
For your marriage to work,there are some foundations that you need to build your home upon;here we go:

* High expectations – some individuals tend to bring over their romantic notions of love and marriage into adulthood. These notions are reinforced by Hollywood images perpetuated by the media. There is a certain lack of maturity when we refuse to accept the fact that expectations – especially high expectations – could lead to disappointment and frustration. Cinderella and Prince Charming are perfect models, but this is the 21st century and these personalities are best relegated to the archives. When we think that our future husband is such an impeccable prince charming with hardly any flaws – and then three years after the marriage he turns out to be the king of slobs, how will we cope? The same goes for men. If they think their Cinderella will stay home and keep house and cook lovely meals and raise wholesome kids, they could be surprised later in the marriage when she says she’s bored being a stay-at-home mom and decides she wants a career. How would a traditional-thinking male react to this?

There is one lesson worth keeping at the back of our minds: there is no such thing as the perfect partner. Therefore, there is no such thing as a perfect marriage.

* Money issues – we never understood why some spouses would never discuss money matters right at the beginning of a relationship. True, money is taboo (along with sex and politics), but it is NOT so between two married people who will have to figure out what kind of budget is required by the union.

Sadly, we still hear of cases where women are content letting their husbands handle the money. We’ve even witnessed cases of a few of our colleagues who turn over their entire paycheck to their husbands and are happy just receiving an allowance.

When both husband and wife work, they each have a right to know where and how their salaries are being spent. Husbands and wives should take a day or two to discuss finances as soon as they come back from a honeymoon. Why wait for a large debt burden to knock their socks off before they put their thinking caps on?

If husbands are uncomfortable about their wives spending the family income on shoes and bags, or if wives are concerned that their husbands are spending too much on expensive wine or the latest techno gizmos, they should speak up. It’s always good to communicate your feelings early on in the marriage – not later when the troubles are brewing and hovering at the boiling point.

* Stress – ah, we now come to the most excruciating illness that modern societies have to put up with. Humans, however, have the option to succumb to stress or to manage it. Husbands and wives who strive for a smart marriage will recognize the sources of their stress and do whatever they can to circumvent them in an effort to diminish the stress. Too much stress clouds one’s thinking and hampers a person’s ability to make things work.

Which brings us to another aspect: if husbands and wives could play together – find a sport or activity that they both enjoy, this could avert any potential stress, or at least help them manage stress better.

Some sources of stress in the marriage include children and their problems, mortgage and other financial issues, in-laws, working too hard, insufficient “we-time”, long absences of one spouse due to business travel, illness, and irreconcilable differences (different attitudes on different issues).

The Desire in Making Your Marriage Work

The willingness on the part of both husband and wife to making their marriage work is already a battle half won. Instead of constant arguments and reprimands, partners prefer to sit down and sort out their differences calmly, minus the emotional ingredient. As in politics, when there’s a willingness to negotiate, the chances of success at bridging international relations and diplomacy are higher. The same applies to marriages.

I believe by now you are satisfied on how to make your marriage work.Keep in touch with this page for more exciting tips on how to make your relationship work better.